Ladies, are you tired of spending Saturday nights with a tub of ice cream and a cat named Mr. Whiskers? Are you ready to trade in your sweatpants for a little black dress and high heels? Well, it’s time to put down the Ben & Jerry’s and keep reading on ‘how to get a boyfriend and keep him.’
First things first, let’s talk about what men are attracted to. It’s no secret that men are visual creatures. I’m sorry but that’s the way it is so make sure to put your best face and body forward. Check out www.rightway24.com for some great fitness plans. But it’s not just about looks. Men are also attracted to confidence, intelligence, and a sense of humor. So, brush up on current events, crack a few jokes, and walk with your head held high.
Now, let’s discuss the different types of men. There are the alphas, who are confident and successful, and the betas, who are more laid-back and easy-going. And then there’s everything in between which is a different topic and I don’t want to digress.The important thing is to figure out what type of man you’re looking for and what type of man you can handle.
Once you’ve figured out your type, it’s time to start the hunt. And ladies, this is not the time to be shy. Approach men with confidence and a smile. Strike up a conversation and show interest in what they have to say. And for the love of all that is holy, do NOT mention your cat or your love for reality TV.
Now, let’s talk about what NOT to do if you want to get a boyfriend and keep him.
Don’t be clingy. Men like their space, so give it to them. Don’t call or text them every hour of the day. Let them miss you. You are just gonna have to trust them!
Don’t be overly aggressive. You don’t want to come on too strong, or he’ll run for the hills.
Don’t play games. Men hate games. If you like someone, just say so. They have a hard time figuring us out. Don’t make it worse! Don’t say you like him then turn around and play hard to get. Don’t say or do things to see if he’ll get jealous. Don’t be fake! Be yourself. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not.
Don’t be negative. No one wants to be around someone who is always complaining and being negative. Keep the negativity to yourself.
Don’t be a drama queen. Men do not want to deal with drama, so keep it to a minimum.
Once you’ve landed a man, it’s time to keep him. And this is where the real work begins. Relationships take effort, so be prepared to put in the time and effort.
Communication is key. Talk to each other and listen to what the other has to say. Don’t do all the talking and do not interrupt him. Don’t wait for your turn to speak. Listen to him! And if he doesn’t listen to you then point it out for sure. Just say, “hey, I always listen to you when you talk to me so I would appreciate it if you could do the same for me.”
Keep the spark alive. Surprise him with thoughtful gestures, and don’t be afraid to try new things in the bedroom. Remember if he’s not getting it from you, he’ll get it somewhere else! Dont be a prude. They love intimacy so be erotic. If you don’t know how then watch some porn!
Be loyal and supportive. A good relationship is about supporting each other, so be there for him when he needs you. Tell him you’re proud of him and show that pride- in your eyes, in your words, in your actions. When you look at him, think about how much you love him. When you do that it will show in your eyes and he will see it. And if anyone else is there, they will see it too.
Respect each other’s space. Just because you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you have to be attached at the hip. Give each other space to do your own thing. I’m sure there are things you want to do too. You don’t have to live your life vicariously through him and HIS family and friends and HIS accomplishments!
Getting a boyfriend and keeping him is not rocket science. Just be yourself, be confident, and don’t be afraid to make the first move. I’m not saying be a big slut! It can be a subtle move. He will still see it. If he doesn’t respond to it then oh well you tried. And remember, relationships take effort, so be prepared to put in the time and effort. And always keep in mind the things not to do if you want to keep your man happy and by your side.
I am not a relationship therapist. I am older and I have learned through trial and error and experience and I am freely giving you good advice. How much actual experience does your therapist have? Do you know? Would you rather ride on the back of a motorcycle with a guy who has been studying the physics and aerodynamics of motorcycle riding for twenty years or with a guy who has been riding motorcycles for twenty years?
So, go forth and conquer, ladies. Happy hunting!!
Written by: Gina M. Rice